What brings couples to therapy?

• Infidelity and betrayal — rebuilding trust after an affair
• Emotional disconnection and growing apart
• Sexual dissatisfaction or mismatched desire
• Recurring arguments that never seem to resolve
• The impact of pornography or sex addiction on the relationship
• Considering separation — and wanting clarity before deciding
• Strengthening a good relationship before it becomes a struggling one

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most extensively researched therapeutic approaches in the field, with consistent outcomes across hundreds of studies. I trained and hold certification through isEFT — the International Society for Emotion-Focused Therapy, the international body founded by the originators of the approach.

The key insight of EFT is that most relationship conflict isn't really about the dishes, or money, or sex — it's about attachment. About feeling unseen, unsafe, or alone within the relationship. EFT works by helping couples identify the negative cycle they're stuck in, understand the deeper fears driving it, and create new patterns of reaching for and responding to each other.

What to expect

Sessions are 60–75 minutes and held online via secure video. I typically work with couples over 16–24 sessions, though this varies. We begin with a few individual sessions with each partner before moving to joint work, so I can understand each person's history and perspective.

The first consultation is free and pressure-free — a chance to talk about where you are and whether EFT feels like the right fit.

You don't have to keep this to yourself

Most people who come to me for this work have been carrying it alone for years. They've tried willpower. They've tried shame. Neither has worked — because neither gets to the root of it.

Compulsive pornography use and sexual behavior are rarely about sex. They're usually about regulation — managing anxiety, loneliness, shame, or emotional states that feel uncontrollable in any other way. My work is to help you understand what the behavior is doing for you, and find other ways to meet those needs.

Who I work with

• Individuals struggling with compulsive pornography use
• People whose sexual behavior feels out of control or at odds with their values
• Couples where pornography or infidelity has damaged trust
• Partners of people with sex or pornography addiction
• Men and women in high-pressure careers or public-facing roles

My approach

I work psychodynamically, which means I'm interested in what's underneath the behavior — not just the behavior itself. We'll look at the emotional and relational patterns that feed the cycle, often rooted in early experiences of shame, attachment, or emotional regulation.

This work requires a space of complete confidentiality and zero judgment.

Confidentiality

All sessions are strictly confidential.

What you might recognise

• A mind that won't stop questioning — your choices, your relationships, whether what you're feeling is even real
• Difficulty knowing what you want, separate from what others expect of you
• Perfectionism — the sense that being good enough is never quite enough
• A persistent sense of not being enough — however much you achieve
• Relationships that feel painfully familiar in ways you can't explain
• Intense anxiety or guilt when you set boundaries or say no
• A harsh inner critic that sounds uncannily like a parent
• Hypervigilance — always scanning for mood shifts, always managing others' emotions

What the therapy involves

This is slow, careful work — because the wounds are old and often pre-verbal. We'll work to understand the family system you grew up in, name what happened (often for the first time), and begin untangling your sense of self from the story you were handed.

A psychodynamic approach is particularly well-suited to this work because it takes seriously the way the past lives in the present — in our bodies, our reactions, our choices of partner, our relationship to our own needs.

On grief

A significant part of this work involves grief — mourning the parent you needed and didn't have, the childhood that should have been different. That grief, when it can finally be felt, is often a profound relief.

The hidden cost of starting over

Expat life looks adventurous from the outside. But the inside experience is often one of profound ambiguity — grief for what you left, uncertainty about where you belong, the exhaustion of performing competence in a culture that isn't quite yours.

Add relationship strain, career transition, or family complexity to that — and it becomes a lot to carry.

Who I work with

• Americans and other expats living in London or elsewhere in Europe
• International professionals navigating identity, career, and relationship pressures
• Couples where partners come from different cultural backgrounds
• People returning home after years abroad and finding it stranger than expected
• Anyone who has moved frequently and struggles to feel rooted

Practical details

I hold US licenses in New York and Texas, and see US-based clients in those states. I see international and UK clients as a consultant. All sessions are available online via secure, encrypted video — across time zones, wherever you are.

I work with clients across the US, UK, Europe, and beyond. If you're not sure whether I can see you in your location, reach out and we'll figure it out together.

Background

I've spent my career working with the things people find hardest to talk about — shame, compulsive behavior, difficult relationships, and the families we come from. Before opening my private practice I worked in forensic clinical settings in New York City. Those years gave me a particular kind of clinical depth — and a deep respect for what it takes to bring the most private parts of your life into a room with another person.

My earlier work included placements at Rikers Island correctional facility, where I provided mental health counseling and assessment.

I am a published researcher in the field of sexual behavior and treatment outcomes, and I am currently pursuing postgraduate studies in Psychoanalytic Studies at Birkbeck, University of London — a reflection of a longstanding commitment to psychoanalytic thinking that has always underpinned my clinical work.

I've lived and practiced across New York, Austin, Mexico, and Portugal — which means I bring both clinical training and genuine personal understanding to working with expats, cross-cultural relationships, and the experience of building a life far from where you started.

Training & credentials

• Postgraduate candidate, Psychoanalytic Studies — Birkbeck, University of London
• M.A. & M.Ed. in Psychological Counselling — Columbia University, New York
• B.A. in Psychology & Criminology — Chatham University, Pittsburgh
• Certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT-C) — International Institute for Emotion-Focused Therapy, Bern
• Licensed Mental Health Counselor — New York State
• Licensed Professional Counsellor — Texas State
• Certified Mediator — University of Texas School of Law
• Published researcher — International Journal of Offender Therapy and Comparative Criminology (2025)

How I work

My primary orientation is psychodynamic, which means I'm more interested in understanding the roots of a problem than in offering quick techniques for managing it. I work collaboratively — your goals matter, and we'll define them together.

I'm direct. I'll gently challenge what I observe. And I believe the therapeutic relationship itself — the space between us — is one of the most powerful instruments of change we have.